Week 6
Heather makes an important decision about the future and her friends reveal a surprise that’s been in the making for weeks.
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The Girls
Heather, Jo, Pip, Lisa
Monday
Morning
Jo
Just had to take this little idiot to the vets because she found an entire yule log in the park this morning and ate nearly all of it
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Jo
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Jo
They had to make her sick
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Jo
To be honest I’m more annoyed that I found a yule log in April. What is going on?!
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Heather
Maybe it was a very late present from ‘santa paws’
Jo
That’s bad even by your standards
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Heather
😂 Sorry
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Heather
Results later
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Heather
Just trying to occupy my mind with other things!
Jo
Understandable
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Jo
What time are you going in? Is Graham going with you?
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Heather
2pm
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Heather
Yeah he is
Early afternoon
Lisa
Sending positive thoughts H! Xx
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Pip
❤
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Jo
Xxx
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Jo
Here if you want to chat later
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Late afternoon
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Heather
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Heather
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Heather
Jo
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15 minutes later
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Heather
Jo
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Heather
1 hour later
Pip
Hey hun
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Pip
All makes sense when it’s a big thing like that
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Pip
Here if you want to chat xx
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Heather
Thanks
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Heather
Maybe tomorrow?
Pip
Course 😘
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Early evening
Lisa
Must be so hard to wrap your head around. Have you spoken to Sandy about it?
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Heather
I’m talking to her in an hour
Lisa
That’s good xx
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Tuesday
Morning
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Heather
Spoke to Sandy last night
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Heather
And did a lot of Breast Cancer Now forum scrolling!
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Heather
Then me and G made a pros and cons list
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Heather
Safe to say it’s pretty clear what won
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Heather
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Heather
Time for me to break out the clippers girls
Jo
Proud of you
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Jo
Love how Graham’s crossed that one line out
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Pip
Can just imagine little servant man Graham in a tiny loincloth
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Heather
Can you now…?!!!
Jo
😂
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Lisa
Glad getting all your thoughts down has helped
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Lisa
What’s ‘secondary’?
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Heather
Secondary breast cancer
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Heather
Basically when it’s spread to other parts of the body
Lisa
Yikes 😳
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Lisa
How are you today?
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Heather
I’m actually ok
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Heather
Feeling weirdly measured about it all now
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Heather
Knowing me I’ll get into a panic about it at some point
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Heather
But now that’s decided it’s a step in the right direction
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Heather
Just got to talk to mum now
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Heather
And the boys
Jo
Heather
But now that’s decided it’s a step in the right direction
It’s a MASSIVE step in the right direction xx
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Jo
Here if you want to chat after
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Heather
I’ll let you know
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Heather
Feel like I could do with a catch up in person actually
Lisa
Just tell us when xx
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Pip
We’ll be there! 😘
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Heather
xx
Wednesday
Early evening
Lisa
I am absolutely knackered!
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Lisa
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Lisa
One of the PE teachers organised a staff zumba class
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Lisa
It was hell on earth
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Lisa
How am I so unfit?!
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Jo
Join the club
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Jo
Get out of breath just going up stairs!
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Jo
Pip’ll be getting plenty of exercise at the minute 😜
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Pip
What do you mean?
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Jo
All that rolling around you’ve been doing
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Pip
Jo
All that rolling around you’ve been doing
I’ll spare you the gory details
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Heather
😂 😂
Lisa
I love the details!
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Heather
I’m dreading what I’ll be like if I ever get back swimming
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Heather
Wonder if I’ll be able to do much exercise during chemo
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Heather
Maybe yoga?
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Heather
Hope I don’t have to stop walking Lola
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Heather
Need my morning walks
Lisa
Looks like walking should be ok
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Heather
Haha you’re on that site more than me!
Lisa
It’s so helpful!
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Heather
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Heather
Ordered myself some seriously luxurious pjs today
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Heather
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Heather
And a headscarf!
Pip
Heather
Love that!
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Jo
Good to treat yourself
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Heather
Any excuse to be a bit extravagant to be honest
Pip
Absolutely!
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Thursday
Late morning
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Heather
Lunchtime
Jo
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Lisa
Yes, let’s do it!
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Lisa
Xxx
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Pip
I’m in 😘
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Pip
xx
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Friday
Morning
Jo
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Jo
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Jo
Xx
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Late morning
Pip
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Lunchtime
Lisa
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Lisa
🍗 🥕 🥔 Xx
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Late afternoon
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Heather
Jo
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Jo
This bad boy will help sort you out xx
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Pip
🤤
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Late evening
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Heather
Thanks girls
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Heather
Was delicious Jo
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Heather
Sunday’s going to be head shave day! Don’t let me chicken out.
Lisa
🤗
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Pip
We won’t! ❤
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Jo
😘 ❤
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Saturday
Afternoon
Pip
Heather can you be by your phone at 8pm tonight? We have a surprise for you...
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Heather
Ok...
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Heather
What are you up to?
Evening
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Heather
Ok it’s gone 8, what’s the big surprise?
Pip
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Heather
Oh my god Pip!!
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Heather
What have you done?
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Heather
You look incredible!
Pip
Didn’t think you should have to go it alone xx
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Heather
I really don’t know what to say
Pip
Just say “you look nothing like Harry Hill”
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Heather
you look NOTHING like Harry Hill
Pip
Phew!
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Jo
Hello...
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Jo
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Heather
Lisa
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Heather
LISA!!!!!!
Lisa
Surprise! 🤪
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Heather
Jo
Love you H xx
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Heather
LOVE YOU!!!
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Heather
Oh my god Lisa what are your kids going to say?
Lisa
My kids helped me do it!
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Heather
No not YOUR kids, your school kids!
Lisa
Oh please. Detentions for anyone who even THINKS about making a Voldemort joke
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Heather
I have so many questions
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Heather
When did you decide to do all this
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Heather
And why?!
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Heather
I only saw you all yesterday and you all had hair!
Lisa
We agreed on it weeks ago!
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Pip
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Lisa
I had a whip round with my sixth formers. Convinced some of them to give up their lunch money.
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Jo
Good old Lisa, stealing charity money from hungry children...
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Lisa
Oh please they’d only go and spend it on junk food and energy drinks. I’m doing them a favour.
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Pip
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Heather
😂
Jo
Also
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Jo
Check this out...
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Jo
➦ Forwarded
Hello Jo. Please will you put me down for £10 and I will reimburse you when I see you next. Best wishes, Marianne
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Heather
Oh god mum. I don’t really know what to do with that. She’s so formal in messages. She’s been really struggling to accept this whole thing but that feels like a really big step.
Jo
It is. Must mean a lot. xx
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Heather
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Heather
Jo
I think you’d make a wonderful fridge magnet
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Pip
Yeah, I’d stick you on my fridge any day
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Lisa
Agreed
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Heather
Love you all xxx
Message from Breast Cancer Now
We hope you’ve enjoyed The Chat and we’d like to thank you for joining Heather, Jo, Pip and Lisa for the past six weeks. Heather’s story is inspired by real breast cancer experiences. If you’ve been affected by any of the issues raised, or if you want to find out more about Breast Cancer Now visit breastcancernow.org. Let’s talk more openly about breast cancer. However you’re experiencing it, we’re here.
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